Several talks related to ‘rape with the temptation of marriage’ were seen. The main point of the talks is that such incidents are not as serious as rape, they fall under the stage of fraud.
I am interested in taking this conversation a little further.
A promise of marriage before intercourse and later reneging on the promise does not even amount to cheating. Extorting a promise of marriage from someone moments before intercourse is a serious form of blackmail. This type of blackmail should be brought under criminal offence.
So now the question may come, can’t a woman only desire intercourse with her (future) husband? Of course it can. No problem with that.
Let’s make the conversation a little easier.
Most of the people in this world who have been in love even for a day, even for a moment, have thought of being together with their partner forever. They may have told each other that many times, but in the end all love has not, could not, and probably never will for all.
As many binary non-binary gender people live in this world as men and women, with time each of them change their tastes, change their habits, change their needs, change their interests and desires, change their needs and emotions. Emotions are not permanent. Some kind of permanent relationship. Everything is changing in this world.
Now suppose, if one sincerely tells his partner to share the entire time of his life together, and later his interests change, circumstances change, his feelings towards his partner change and he gradually starts to dislike him, then on what logic does one stay with such a person? would you like
don’t want This is normal. That’s the rule. This is science.
If you say he’s cheating on you by citing a mere emotional commitment, that would be a fundamentalist stance against all human progress, changeability, free will to think and decide.
This would directly deny the variability of the human psyche. The history of freedom of thought and practice will be denied.
Cheating happens when someone makes a promise to give something instead of taking it and ends up breaking the promise. There isn’t much to mate with. Both participate in this action. I know from personal experience that the effort of two people is almost equal. Both lose calories. The pleasures of the two may vary, but there is nothing to be gained from intercourse except experience.
There is no exchange in intercourse It’s about collaboration. If one wants to come out of the partnership, it is his decision (for all, including men and women). Challenging that decision is rather a matter of spectacle, the dirtiest trick of admitting oneself as a product of consumption.
Women have never given a promise of marriage to their partner? Did they fail to keep their promises? has been Millions of times. It happened in this Bengal, in this land.
But if after copulation, even after a long time, they withdraw from that promise of their own free will, no case of ‘rape by inducement to marriage’ can be filed against a woman. There is no such way in the law.
Not because, in the said law, women are only objects of enjoyment. What will he promise again? The consumer will promise. male It is the responsibility of men to ensure ownership after enjoyment. Since men are owners in the eyes of the law
But, women are not a product. Certainly not men’s consumer goods. Women are in no way less human than men. Looking at the historical evolution, women seem to be more human than men.
The agrarian civilization on which our entire present day rests is the beginning of that agrarian civilization in the hands of women. Treating women as commodities is nothing but an insult to the entire civilization. But when women themselves are desperate to assert themselves as commodities, when they resort to such patriarchal laws, it is an affront to the progress of thought of the entire species.
But there is no fault of 8-10 ordinary women of the society. Most women are raised as commodities, many are educated only to marry into wealthy homes. One after another beauty product ads have been used in women’s environment since childhood.
As a byproduct of such a capitalist-masculine society, it is not surprising when women themselves come forward to present themselves as commodities.
But it is surprising when a woman despite understanding these things resort to such patriarchal laws, forcing a man who does not want to be with her to stay together with legal threats, when she wants to possess someone against the will of the people.
This kind of behavior is called Chyachchrami in common Bengali.
Of course, there are laughs for the men involved in these cases. In the end, they do not understand that men themselves are the worst victims of patriarchy. Yet men do not find problems with patriarchal power structures. Fear of losing authority over women does not feel the need for reform.
The worst thing about this law and its implementation is that there is no merit in prosecuting anyone under this law. Any woman can file this case against any man at any time, even after the first meeting
It is a matter for the court whether the allegations are proved or not. and difficult subjects. People usually do not make a promise of marriage with many witnesses, they do not sign any document, they give it verbally, which has no witnesses and no evidence. After being accused, only the responsibility of proving oneself innocent remains.
After practicing joint bliss, after a long time, a man suddenly finds out that the woman with whom he once had a love affair has now accused him of rape.
What is the final outcome of the trial is a very time-consuming matter. But when someone is accused of rape, unless it is a powerful professional rapist, his life is no longer a life. Turns into a donation box of hate.
Rape is a very serious matter, so serious that the word ‘rape’ gets stuck in the throat while writing, the fingers stop on the keyboard.
When cases such as rape under the pretense of marriage come to the fore, the importance of the word is lost in the public mind, the word rape gradually turns into a word of joke and ridicule.
It is important that things like rape disappear from the world, but as long as rape exists, it is also important to preserve the horror of this word.
There is a thing called ‘No Means No’ in this world. There is also a thought called ‘consent’.
The word ‘no’ has a lot of power. It is a heinous crime to force someone to do something even if they do not do it. Attempting to forcefully detain someone against their will should also be considered a heinous crime.
There is nothing to be deceived here People are dynamic. People’s lives change, living changes, wishes and desires change. Cheating occurs when someone refuses to give something in return for taking something. There is no such system of exchange in relation to physiology. The system is joint. If someone wants to withdraw from the partnership, it is not rape, not even cheating.
Rather, it is a withdrawal just as people withdraw themselves from other forms of life for their own needs.
Deceit is certainly not the name of the will to live by one’s own decision. Not for women, not for men.
