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Things to consider before oversharing on social media

Patrick D Costa

care must be taken not to make this communication or sharing of joys too personal.

Many things including our daily communication, joys and sorrows of our life, small to big achievements, random thoughts have now come to social media. But we often forget to draw the fine line between ‘sharing’ and ‘oversharing’. Social media oversharing has a negative impact on at least some individuals.

In relationships
Any relationship, especially romantic relationships, occupies a special place in our lives. Even in today’s times, there is a chance to create trouble about how many times a relationship is posted on social media or whether it is at all. So both the parties try and also enjoy to communicate about their relationship repeatedly on social media like Facebook, Instagram etc.

But care must be taken not to make this communication or sharing of joys too personal. As people do in their offline lives, social media often has a different representation of it. Sociologist Ben Agar, in his book ‘Oversharing: Presentation of Self in the Internet Age’, states that many people communicate their opinions, feelings and even sensitive issues more clearly on social media than in face-to-face contact or phone calls. But this overexposure also happens to cause some irritation to others.

The grammar of friendship
Friendship is considered to be one of the simplest relationships in life, but as we grow older, we begin to understand that there is considerable complexity involved. So it is your duty to yourself to stop yourself from excessive behavior even in friendship. It is important to keep eyes and ears open so that the boundaries between friendships are not destroyed due to excessive sharing of information.

Friendships that give ’24-hour updates’ of what I ate in the morning and afternoon, where I went, seem very close, but somehow it feels like a kind of understanding. I don’t want to answer the message, but I have to. Because in previous communication a habit of telling everything was brought. This is the birth of an imposed responsibility.

As a result, the strong bond that was in friendship, also started to loosen. On the other hand, the friends who are not communicated with so much through social media, meet occasionally, have nice chats, take general inquiries, the relationship with them does not seem so strong. Having friendship means everything, this pressure was so much between us before social media came or not, it is also a matter of thinking. Because earlier this area of ​​’sharing’ or ‘oversharing’ did not exist, so the possibility or apprehension could be avoided. But now this addition to the grammar of friendship has put friendship in jeopardy to a great extent.

My sorrow is to myself
Happiness and sadness come in turns in human life. There is no way to get rid of this cycle in this life. We love to be a little lighter by sharing our joys and pains with our people, there is no problem in that either. But the problem starts when we share our small problems, regrets, sorrows through posts, comments, stories etc. day and night with thousands of virtual friends in our friends list thanks to social media.

Seeing such messages over and over again in the newsfeed creates a sad image in people’s minds. This behavior also has a cheeky English name ‘sadfishing’.

This leads to a tendency to empathize with others. It is also harmful to oneself. The results of the ‘Social Media Sadfishing’ survey in 2023 show that people who engage in such behavior develop psychological problems such as anxiety and depression.

We all have at least one person in our newsfeed who we think ‘she shares sad sad posts all the time’ or ‘she’s so sad on Facebook!’ It is not uncommon for such insensitive sarcasm to fall as well as a nasty effect.

Because when someone talks only about sadness day after day, it doesn’t get a very good response face-to-face. And this is the story of a man behind the curtain. Resentment of others becomes very natural. Because seeing the suffering of people through social media will always create true sympathy or tend to do something for that person, rarely. In the end, those who actually have a real relationship or bond with them, stay by. Social media is not very useful. Rather, oversharing creates a negative image for people, which then carries over into that effect.

Nothing in excess is good, not even speaking out. In addition to these problems in personal life, oversharing also leads to the fear of violations of one’s own and others’ privacy.

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