When good days come after bad days in a relationship, those good days don’t carry the same emotions as the happy days of the past. It’s as if the tension is cut off, the illusion decreases. If you hug someone again after hurting them, or scold them and love them again, the feelings don’t return like they did before. The relationship then becomes mixed up with the ordinary. Once you stumble, once you break trust, or once you get angry, the relationship never returns to its previous form.
This creates a gap somewhere, a wound somewhere. Even if the person who left returns, the relationship never returns to its previous form. A small gap remains. After that, with each bad behavior, neglect, and neglect, the feelings change from the previous time to the next. The relationship is transformed by the scars of the injury. At some point, nothing matters; because of absence, because of not going. Some people’s relationships finally come to a standstill. Then presence or absence, seeking or not seeking, calling or pushing away – don’t matter separately. Habits become habitual.
It is better for both parties to take their time to resolve their problems themselves. If they complain to a third party and reconcile, they will eventually not want to close the distance. Respect-conceit, anger-accusation are the secrets of a relationship. When outsiders know this secret beauty, an existential crisis arises. Even after the wounds have healed, even after the cracks have healed, the accused still has a hand in his mind – where is the trust? Who has security! Then shame creates anger. When two people turn into competitors, the relationship becomes embroiled in conflict.
Even inanimate objects can clash when they are together. There is no such thing as the cause of conflict and conflict always being themselves. Even the air can create problems. Suspicion can push you to the battlefield. So there will be misunderstandings, pride and arrogance will increase, and one side will pull the other side closer. If this sour-sour-sweet story of the relationship is told to the world, the problem will not decrease but rather increase. There is bitterness there, separation deepens. Who wants your benefit and who wants your harm – you cannot guess by looking at the outside, just by listening to the words. There may be inhumans behind the mask. Then your loss account will be long.
Do not call a third person between the two if you are not obliged at once. There has been a little quarrel, there is a deadlock, or the face is closed for a while – keep yourself busy in other ways for a while. If you show an immediate reaction, if you turn the arrow of words back or if you make a threat that you will have to see – the owl will ring. This foul act spoils the color and flavor of the relationship and creates strange situations. So, you have to be patient and bear with the rest. If you expect sweet fruits, refrain from sowing bitter seeds.
Time is important in a relationship. Even if you grow old in marriage, even if your partner becomes old, give him time – you will find him as your own. Words that involve external temptations are lies. Be careful and attached to what has happened to you, what you have got. Being good will be strong. Don’t be after your own when trying to be the next one. Know your final address and destination well. Do not get sympathy from anyone or put your secrets on the market in the hope of getting sympathy. You will regret it. On the other side of good days, the length and width of bad days are written. Which day you will be in the future will fix your past days.
Complain to the one whose mistake is wrong, explain it. Point it out and teach it. Don’t market complaints. It is important to be good. That’s why you shouldn’t try to get involved, but if someone tries, you should also stop them. What harm can it do to be good, if you bow down a little, make a little concession, or accept a little? You are not letting someone distant, someone behind you, or someone unrelated win. Make arrangements so that the one who wins can also rejoice and be in a festive mood. The importance of the home comes first. Mistakes are also the beauty of a person. Correct your partner’s mistakes. Holding onto flaws, keeping complaints, or the mentality of not giving up a single hair – will be an obstacle on the path to your well-being. The mistakes that destroy peace, life goes in vain – it is not right to draw the footprints of wisdom on the path of mistakes.
