People are not inherently or naturally hard-hearted. They are forced to be hard in the embrace of the behavior, surroundings and reality that happens to them. Sometimes harshness is the last resort to maintain their existence. Environmental conditions wound the human heart and harden it so much that they cannot behave normally even if they try. Or they hide themselves in the guise of harshness for fear of being hurt again. When they speak, it seems like an impenetrable wall. The one who has cheated, the one who has lost or the one who has been deceived cannot return to normal trust even if they want to.
When is a person forced to be hard? When other people find them. The one who realizes that others are using them turns around. Everyone has a certain tolerance limit. When someone crosses it, they are forced to be harsh in their words and behavior. The story of parting with those with whom they used to chat openly, those who remained a part of their life, was not created in a day. The habit of turning away or turning away from someone without whom it seemed impossible to live was not formed at once. It took many times to think about it, to fight against one’s own will to acquire the ability to say ‘no’. If people treated people like people, no one’s nature would be so harsh and difficult. There was no question of being.
Life is actually a small battlefield. Here, both the conspiracy of the enemy and the non-help of the friend exist. Here, someone has hurt brutally and someone has deceived while laughing. Those who rejoiced in breaking trust, those who did not stand by their side even after giving trust, or those who did not walk together even after holding hands – all this has made the human heart no longer soft. It has endured the violence of words. The heart has seen the change of loved ones and heard stories of monstrosity instead of humanity. Then, people have become tough to protect themselves. To escape from injury, they have built prehistoric walls around themselves. And to avoid suffering, they have never trusted anyone again.
Imagine, if people behaved gently, everyone was accustomed to living a simple life and was steadfast in keeping their faith – then what beauty would the abode of people be built in? Yet people quarrel over interests, bring tears to eyes with words, or kill and injure each other. In this world, no matter how hard they are, they can protect their interests more than they can. If a person is soft, ashamed to protect their interests, others will start pulling at his clothes. They will already seize wealth. People make people harsh with their behavior and now they blame others! What a strange nature of people!
Gentleness is undoubtedly a better quality than harshness. However, harshness is also an ornament when he is a judge-administrator. However, ordinary people should naturally have a soft heart. Therefore, they should keep the windows and doors of understanding and conscience open and mix with people. Unnecessary harshness should be abandoned. The angel of mercy of the Most Gracious does not reside in a heart that is hard. Trusting someone does not mean blindly surrendering one’s life and youth to him. One must examine and select whether the person who will be a part of one’s life passes the test of humanity, faith and trust. Being gentle with honesty and taking a firm stand against injustice is a requirement of faith.
Some people seem very tough from the outside, in their words and nature. What a serious matter. However, if these people can be conquered once, there is no better companion than them. The thicker the outer layer, the softer the inner layer. One has to know good people, mix with good people. Again, one has to stay a few yards away from those who hang sweet words on the tip of their tongue to trap them. Why do people cheat? They believe blindly. If you treat someone well and speak nicely to them, but their nature does not change, then promise to leave. You were not sent with the task of conquering the whole world. To live well, the company of just a few good people is enough for a lifetime. Unnecessary harshness and unreasonable softness – both are harmful aspects of nature and relationships.
