Argue, threaten, cry, even slap if necessary, but don’t take your matters to God. As long as you can endure, manage, or retaliate, resolve it yourself. Even though revenge is not as good as forgiveness, if you can’t forgive someone’s mistake and curse or sigh in frustration, you’re inviting ruin.
Whether you win or lose in resolving a problem, don’t take it to God. The one you accuse might be guilty, but you’ll face ruin. God never withholds justice. He punishes everyone according to their wrongdoings. The best way is to resolve issues mutually, by conceding or compensating.
What if you complain to God, but you’re actually at fault? You won’t escape punishment. Instead, you’ll face a harsher punishment for your mistake and lie. The examples of God’s punishment are terrifying! People say, ‘Bad times pass, and good times come.’ It’s true. After sin, good times will come. Your own sins or the sins of your group determine your bad and good times. Days have no inherent qualities; everything is a result of our actions. Sometimes, a group suffers for an individual’s actions, or an individual suffers for the group’s.
Even if you don’t call out to Allah, He knows. Even if you don’t call, He hears everything. And even if you hide, He sees everything. However, He waits for you to repent for your mistakes. Those whose rights you have violated, those whom you have kept away, or those whom you have hurt – seek their forgiveness immediately. Don’t embrace death without letting go of your claims. Since none of us is certain about the time of death, it is imperative to return others’ rights, seek forgiveness, or bow down as soon as possible.
Pray to Allah for others and seek your own well-being – this approach will bring blessings to everyone. Don’t complain against anyone; don’t raise your hands in supplication until you’re cornered. If someone has hurt you, broken your heart, or caused you unnecessary pain, endure it patiently. You will be rewarded for the harm you have suffered. If you file a lawsuit against someone or shed tears in a complaint, their destruction is inevitable if the accusation is true. Those who cause pain are often close people. It’s important to give our loved ones a chance to repent.
If you can forgive and forget, you are not being cheated. Holding onto someone’s wrongs or mistakes increases bitterness. See, it’s not possible to live well in isolation from people. Staying away from loved ones is not right. However, if someone betrays you, be cautious and proceed with caution. Allah’s court of justice is not flawed like the earthly courts. In this world, you are in a relatively advantageous position as a complainant, but in Allah’s court, you appear as a forgiver – you will be honored. Allah’s mercy will fill your life with blessings.
