The main reason for our unhappiness is ‘comparison’ and one of the reasons is ‘I need it now’, that is, the attitude of impatience. Is my job good or not, is my man good or not? I don’t have this or that, is he has this or that – these comparisons are the main reason for our sadness. I earn less, he earns more – we don’t spend the night worrying about this. So and so is such a good person, why can’t I be as good as him? – we never make such comparisons! Where we have interests, where we have the power to profit, we compare ourselves with others and get carried away. Why didn’t I get this, why didn’t I get that – we grow old every day with this worry.
My life is just beginning, there is still a long way to go – yet I am sitting here waiting for everything to be ours. I am protesting and fasting to get it. I am burning with greed and anger. I am suffering from the youth of the morning to see the old age of the afternoon. We don’t think that we should be a little more patient, work a little harder, or give up pleasure in the pursuit of making ourselves worthy – we don’t even think about it. We don’t act on it. Why did he do it, why didn’t we do it – we blame our foreheads for that. We make our parents stand on the dock of excuses. We condemn poverty. We don’t even question the Creator’s methods and methods. We don’t think about the sacrifice and hard work of those who have it. We don’t measure the patience of those who have it. We just want to make the world ours by saying my own words. But the results of our actions are not false. We don’t have any actions! Where will the results come from? We do all the bad deeds and misdeeds. We also get the results of them in our hands. That adds more sorrow to our life.
I hire people to find flaws in the person I have been lucky enough to meet. I gather around to criticize. I compare life to movies. What I see is an illusory dream, an illusory imagination in my thoughts. But these are not false stories. I like the hero/heroine’s walk, their tricks, I like the way people behave on the street, I like someone’s smile or I enjoy seeing someone’s appearance – I enjoy it. I also never thought about the things I could have done. I was busy catching mistakes, I felt body odor or I felt ashamed to sit next to them. The one who showed me the way, taught me to dream has become an enemy. I measured love in the box of beauty or in pocket money! I find other people’s jobs very attractive. It seems that all the happiness in heaven is beyond. Some people who work in the middle or lower ranks have bought cars, become wealthy or live an attractive life, and I feel jealous. But I didn’t think about their dishonesty, bribery! I could have drawn their destruction – I didn’t. I thought that wealth is happiness! It is sad to find me in this disease.
The mentality of comparing ourselves with others has made us miserable. We have lost our happiness by standing in front of others’ mirrors. I am me, not anyone else. He is he. We have very little motivation to be good or do good by seeing someone’s good. We imagine ourselves there when we see someone else’s bad appearance because greed for money has made us animals. The justice of conscience has disappeared. I can kick all the customs and traditions of the world for a couple of taka of interest and bribe. I can turn my eyes away in the blink of an eye or cover the truth with lies in an instant. I am no less skilled at acting! In short, the society has been ruined in such a way that even if garbage is wrapped in glitter, we accept it without knowing it. I sell my faith for a small amount of money. I have taken whatever religion has as a mask of opportunity for my own interests. All the rest is deceit!
Let me be stubborn in seeing the good of others to make myself a good person. But there is no point in destroying my happiness, peace, laughter and joy by comparing myself with others. All this is futile. The more I compare myself to others in a mediocre way, the more my position will be shaky. The more I complain in the name of fate, the longer my history of deprivation will be. The more I insult myself, the more my reputation will spread. The more I blame God, the less blessing I will receive. We must strengthen the habit of being content with little, of not comparing ourselves unnecessarily with anyone. We must learn to use whatever we have purely. There is no benefit in looking at what others have; without regret. Reduce comparison and increase patience – it will be easier to be good. Life will not take you to the grave deprived – have complete faith. Part of the calculation is on this side, the rest is on the other side. He is the bearer of justice and fairness.
