When hurt by someone close, the reaction within the mind can feel as painful as multiple broken bones. Yet, the one who inflicts the pain often remains unaware of this. A person may break another’s heart and still wander around unaffected, as if nothing happened. Those who cannot muster even the slightest sense of remorse for causing pain should not be considered truly close. But humans are stubborn by nature! They often keep going back to the very place where they’ve been hurt the most.
Making a mistake is one thing, but when mistakes are repeated, it turns into a crime. If someone doesn’t feel the need to say “sorry” after making a mistake, refuses to humble themselves, and instead justifies their wrongdoings, they might be tolerable for a 500-mile journey but not for a lifetime together. However, if one’s sense of self-respect is lost, if they hold ideals of endless sacrifice to an extreme, or if they possess the patience of a saint, they may endure all kinds of insults and injuries, clinging on until death.
Forgiveness is one of the greatest virtues. If someone makes a mistake, realizes it, and seeks forgiveness, withholding that forgiveness reflects a lack of generosity and human beauty. Mistakes are human nature. But when someone deliberately plans to harm, hurts with intent, or seeks revenge, it’s wise to stay cautious. Those driven by vengeance should be kept at a safe distance for one’s own well-being. Distancing oneself from toxic individuals is akin to moving closer to peace. To live well, one must sometimes have the courage to remove the wrong people from their life.
If someone pretends to be close but hurts you with their words, exacerbates your wounds, and betrays your trust at every opportunity, cutting ties with them is essential. People who criticize you behind your back can never be considered your own. To live a happy life, you don’t need many people. For your own well-being, it’s better to be alone than to surround yourself with toxic individuals who spread negativity and cause pain. However, in this journey of solitude, it’s important not to become selfish. One cannot find true happiness by breaking someone’s trust, stealing their rights, or depriving them of their freedom. A person’s curse can be devastating.
Those who deceive others often end up being deceived the most in life. Outward appearances can never reveal the inner anguish of a person. Wealth cannot measure happiness. A smile cannot expose the depths of one’s pain. Every individual is unique—our joys are different, and so are our sorrows. What matters is ensuring that we are not the cause of someone else’s tears or suffering. That our behavior does not become entangled in another’s heartbreak. Practicing contentment with little is essential. The fewer grievances we hold against life, the greater our happiness will be. May we not cause others pain, but instead contribute to the joy around us. Let our names remain glowing in the hearts of loved ones, not just out of necessity, but because we truly belong there.
