Breakups are not uncommon in any relationship, be it love or marriage. The game of breaking up relationships will continue, this is the rule of the world. A relationship like glass can break suddenly due to differences of opinion, ego or various reasons.
And many can free themselves from a toxic or suffocating relationship and get involved in a new relationship with someone else. But many times it is seen, after getting out of that relationship, even if you start another relationship, you cannot forget the previous relationship or the ex.
Even if the new relationship is good, it may unconsciously or unconsciously sink into the memories of the previous relationship. And to maintain a healthy relationship they reminisce about the past or ex, and many people compare the present with the ex which is very foolish. Later on it gave birth to many difficult consequences. Through this, the partner may also suffer from some kind of illness.
Since this is the age of social media. And in this age nothing is unknown to anyone. Even if you don’t meet someone face to face, you can easily visit their Facebook, Instagram profiles to see them or get ideas. And the partner’s interest in peeking at the ex’s profile is not unusual. But if that interest is excessive, then psychologists identify it as an illness. And the name of this illness is ‘Rebecca Syndrome’.
Letting go of the past between men and women in any marriage or love affair requires some extra care as they prepare for their new lives. Because comparing the new relationship with the old relationship often comes subconsciously even if one does not want it.
And that’s when a competing thought about the first begins in the second, and that thought at one point ends in mental illness.
Start scrolling through the profile of your partner’s ex. However, it is not enough to monitor the ex’s profile out of suspicion of the partner. Psychologists say that excessive love for a partner causes ‘Rebecca Syndrome’. And in this habit, your health is deteriorating day by day.
Even a person suffering from Rebecca syndrome begins to lose confidence at some point. And at one point he became depressed.
Originally, the name of ‘Rebecca syndrome’ is linked to the name of a famous literary work. This particular mentality is identified after the novel ‘Rebecca’ by the British literary Daphne du Maurier.
In the 1938 novel Rebecca, the married life of a wealthy man named Maxim de Winter came up. Rebecca was the name of Maxim’s first wife. A year before Maxim’s marriage to the narrator, she dies in an accident. Mrs. Danvers, the housekeeper at Maxim’s estate, constantly compares the bride to the late Rebecca. He also openly abuses the master’s foolish wife in various ways. Keep reminding again and again, he is nothing compared to Rebecca’s beauty.
When the narrator of the story wants to make some changes to her husband’s estate, Mrs. Danvers tells her that she is no match for the management of Rebecca’s estate. This comparison of Danvers hurts the narrator’s confidence.
Psychologist Shahnila Taiyab has given some suggestions on how to get rid of ‘Rebecca Syndrome’. he said
Never compare your current partner with your ex. Do not bring any memories of past relationship with the present. It is not uncommon for the current partner to suffer.
Don’t expect the new partner to do the same things or habits as the ex. That is, it is better not to have the attitude that the former should do the same.
Forget the ex and create beautiful moments with the new partner, and have the mentality to move on with the hope of enjoying life with the new one.
